New Year, New You – or is it?

New Year, New You – or is it?

Did you make new year’s resolutions this year? Many of us do. We have good intentions.  You might have made a resolution to go to the gym five days a week, eat well, make more effort with friends, get a new job, work more effectively, save more, learn a new skill, or something else.

Why do so many new year’s resolutions fail? Because often they are only wishes and aspirations. We’d love to do those things and we are not necessarily ready to make the changes. As soon as obstacles get in our way, we opt for an alternative route, a route that has forgotten that we had a resolution. Suddenly work is taking over again, the gym is forgotten or the fact that you wanted to see friends on at least two evenings a week.

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Positive vs negative strokes – what’s more effective?

Positive vs negative strokes – what’s more effective?

An important question for any leader. 

To write this article I reflected on my own journey and asked myself how I reacted to positive and negative feedback in the past.

Two examples sprang to mind. One was in my coach training – a long time back. It was on my last module of a year-long coaching programme. Each participant was asked to give positive feedback to a number of other participants about their impact over the course of the year-long training. I remember being super emotional about the overwhelming positive strokes I got. I felt seen, recognised and big. It helped me acknowledge and own my strengths. And with the benefit of hindsight I’d say those strokes played a huge role in me becoming my more powerful self.

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A short reflection on reflection

A short reflection on reflection

This article wouldn’t happen unless there was a deadline.

I get stuff done. I meet my commitments. I turn up to my appointments. I deliver my projects. All these have deadlines. Things have to be in by certain days, coaching sessions are scheduled for particular dates and times, so are trainings. I’m a woman of my word. If I say I do something, I will.

There are things that I don’t get done – or maybe I should say, I didn’t. This article is an example of that, so is my website. These are things that I don’t have to get done. They have no deadline. No one is asking where is that article because no one knew that I was meaning to write one.

These are the product of reflection, and are often the most valuable.

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